"Working things out." "It will all work out." "Let's work this out." Obviously the common denominator of these phrases is work . And work is, by it's nature, difficult. Yet when we say these phrases we tend to miss the point. We are focused on the product and not the process of the work. Marriage has to be one of the most difficult, work-filled relationships there is. What is the product? A good marriage? Is that what we're truly looking for? Or is it the process? Living l...

When writing here for the first time, I wrote about issues I was dealing with with my hubby. Here's a little bit about him and our history... 1) I love him dearly 2) He's a great daddy to the kids 3) His parents are German (He was born in the US and then his family moved back to Germany when he was 13 and lived there for 15 years) 4) When we met he seemed very communicative, but he seems to be withdrawing more and more. 5) We've been together for 4 years. 6) We've been married for ...

So after sleeping on the couch last night - I can't sleep in the bed with him when he's giving me the cold shoulder - I sent him an email at work. And I asked him to please reply. And he did. So I'm reading his message with tears running down my face not b/c of what he's saying, but simply that he's saying something. (We met on-line, perhaps we should still do some of our communicating that way.) I don't really have much else to say. I feel glad that he responded, but I feel sad t...

Here I am. Awake. And I should most definately be asleep. The rest of them are. Even the dog. All day long (well at least most of it) I take care of them. The children, the husband, the house, the laundry. But it isn't ever good enough. "Yucky, mommy! I don't wanna eat this!" "Gimme. I wanna have!" "No, mine!" "If everything in this house isn't crustified, dog-eared, and shit-caked..." "You all just love to smear up this place." "Broken - that must be you all's middle name." ...